We often think of February, the “Universal Month of Love,” as a perfect time to give and receive love. But not everyone has had the opportunity to give or receive love in a healthy, safe way.
A young man from a tough family situation once confessed it was hard for him to say or hear the word “love” because it meant he was going to be hurt. The people in his life said they loved him but then continued to harm him. So, he avoided giving or receiving love to avoid being hurt.
As Support Teams for foster/adoptive/kinship families, we have a great opportunity to understand what makes the individual in these families feel loved and safe. Not everyone interprets love the same way, so thinking about what “love language” the other person speaks is a helpful place to begin.
Dr. Gary Chapman has written a book on The 5 Love Languages.* The following are a few ideas (by love language) that you might use to love on the parents and children you support during this Universal Month of Love:
Whatever the language, we can learn to speak love and encouragement in new, helpful ways with the families we support. Speak love today!
*Follow this link to read more about The 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman